Getting a divorce is a stressful time for everyone. Asset division, child support determinations, alimony negotiations, and child custody agreements can be extremely difficult subjects for everyone to deal with. While spouses may feel a large sense of relief to have finalized their divorce, their children may still be experienced difficulties.
A child can experience many negative consequences after a divorce, and it is up to the parents to shield their children from them. Here are a few tips to help you protect your kids from these consequences:
Do not involve your children in your divorce
Many parents make the mistake of using their kids as messengers in a divorce to relay messages to the other parent. This can put a kid in a difficult position if they forget what they need to say or cannot answer any follow-up questions.
Do not insult the other parent in front of your kids
Children often see themselves as the sum of each of their parents. When they hear something bad about one of their parents, they often take that as an insult against themselves. These insults can also create a bad opinion of the other parent in your children.
Do not withhold your children from your other parent
Unless stated by a court order or there is a genuine fear for your children’s safety, you should not get in the way of your children seeing your former spouse. Standing in the way of that relationship can create bitterness in your children toward you and make things more difficult for everyone.
Attend family events with your former spouse
When a child hears that one of their parents will not come to their recital or game because the other parent is going, it can be devastating for them. You do not have to sit next to your former spouse or even talk to them, but do not let their presence keep you from attending these important events.
Put your kids first
It can be hard to make the right decision for your children every time after a divorce, but remember that your minor decisions today can create memories that last in your kids for a lifetime. By keeping your children out of the affairs of your divorce and promoting their best interests along the way, you can help your children have a well-rounded and emotionally secure childhood.