When you married, you hoped to spend the rest of your life with your spouse. But, for better and for worse, some marriages do not last a lifetime. If you have resolved to end your marriage through divorce, one of the options you may want to consider is collaborative divorce.
Basically, a collaborative divorce is an alternative to a litigated divorce. In a collaborative context, divorcing couples work with professionals like mediators, financial experts and collaborative divorce attorneys to reach settlements on matters like child custody and visitation, child support, spousal support and property division. Collaborative divorce is both time and cost effective. It also provides the divorcing parties the much-needed privacy. Unfortunately, it’s not for everyone. Here are three telltale signs collaborative divorce could be the right fit for you:
You both agree on to reach a non-litigated solution
Collaborative divorce, as the name suggests, requires both parties’ cooperation to work. Thus, both parties must have faith in the process. If one spouse is adamant about matters that the other can’t agree to, then you will have to explore other options for ending your marriage.
You’re both honest
Collaborative divorce will not work for you if one or both of you are not forthright with your finances. Both of you must be transparent from the onset. Remember, although you are reaching the terms of your divorce out of court, you are still going through a legal process. The final settlement must be presented before a judge for approval.
You’re both ready to make concessions
Collaborative divorce and hardline stances do not work. Simply put, you cannot approach the process with an “I have to win” mindset. It works best if you come to the negotiation table with the mindset of finding a solution for your divorce rather than figuring out how to walk out of the marriage with the longer end of the stick. For this to happen, both of you must be ready to make concessions.
Divorce does not necessarily mean that you and your spouse can never see eye-to-eye. Learning the fundamentals of collaborative divorce can potentially help you dissolve your marriage in the most amicable and efficient manner possible.